Saturday, July 25, 2009

Crazy Baby Time!

Over the past week or so, The Boy has started to act quite silly during his play time. This is, of course, developmentally appropriate and mostly welcome. Today, for instance, it's quite welcome, even if it does occasionally get frustrating. As I've said on a number of occasions, I would SO MUCH rather deal with "normal" toddler issues than any of this cancer stuff. Right now, for instance, he's trying to play with the blinds that cover the inter-room windows. Sigh. He threw a minor fit, distracted by being plopped into a chair with a Winnie the Pooh telephone.

Which just got thrown onto the floor. This is two minutes after a small amount of turkey got thrown onto the floor, after a large amount of turkey got thrown onto the floor, after a telephone handle got thrown onto the floor, after a cell phone got thrown onto the floor. Sensing a trend? Me, too.

Okay, so how does one discipline an extremely hypertensive toddler, when a fit that goes on a little too long can cause, say, a stroke? Your guess is as good as mine. I'm trying to reward good behavior with attention and enthusiasm and "reward" negative behavior with less attention and more indifference. This doesn't necessarily jibe with, say, my father's methods of discipline, but cancer treatments aren't necessarily compatible with normal child rearing methods.

We'll figure it out. Right now, though, he's preparing to dump a thing of Cheerios, so I'm going to intercept. Later!


The Reluctant Crunchy Mama said...

Fan of Logical Mommy over here! My daughter is 22 months, so similar developmental stages. We can tell our kids are almost 2, huh?! I'm as new to this discipline stuff as you are, but, from what I've learned thus far, sounds like you are on the right track. Yelling/spanking/losing your cool don't help the situation or achieve anything. Positive reinforcement works a lot better. I found Love and Logic very helpful. I know Molly knows about that book. Basically, it suggests lots of positive reinforcement (when he does a good thing, "good job," clapping, etc.), giving kids choices whenever possible (like letting him pick his diaper, shirt, etc. from 2 choices), using a phrase consistently when he gets into mischief (something like ut-oh or whatever phrase you guys feel comfortable with) and relocating him when he is doing something inappropriate/dangerous. I hope that helps a bit and I hope tonight is a much better night for you guys.

Musical Daddy said...

Love and Logic is an awesome book - it's really affected my teaching strategies, and I've been using it a lot. "Uh-oh!" means he's in trouble, "Oh, no!" means he's just being impy, and moving him away means he should stay away. I agree with everything you've written!

Besides, yelling at him doesn't help. He's not emotionally set up to comprehend why you're yelling or what you're yelling about.