Monday, August 31, 2009

Younger Bro update

So, things kind of reached a head this weekend when it came to dealing with Younger Bro. He's been a fairly miserable baby: he hasn't fed comfortably, he's been very, very gassy, he hasn't liked being held by most people, nothing soothed, him, and he's absolutely hated me since he was born. Very, very unhappy little man, that's for sure. He's just not been able to settled down and to get comfortable.

From The Wife's standpoint, it's been absolute torture. He's been chewing his way through her breasts, having opened wounds 7 weeks ago that have yet to heal or to improve. We thought the thrush thing was a good diagnosis, but the help that it provided was small and short-lived. Every time he fed, he was reopening the wounds, making it immensely painful for her. Huge credit for her persistence, when 99% of mothers would have given up. Not The Wife - not only is she a tough, stubborn broad, but she's bound and determined to feed her children ONLY the right stuff.

This weekend, we all had a minor meltdown on Sunday because of the incessant screaming and carrying on by the baby. Even The Boy was having issues with it, which is completely unlike him.

Long story short, The Wife called a lactation consultant this morning and went in for an appointment this afternoon. Turns out that he has "Tongue Tie"! For those too lazy to click the link, it's a not-uncommon condition that has the tongue anchored to the floor of the mouth by extra skin and muscle. The most common treatment is a minor outpatient surgery, wherein they snip the extra stuff. It shows generally good results, although it is possible (and somewhat likely) that Younger Bro might need further surgery and other corrective therapies when he is older and dealing with complex language issues.

This is, on one hand, a huge relief. Friday is the day for the snipping, and things should improve immediately. It's challenging, because Friday is the day that Grandma and J head back to Pittsburgh, but we'll muddle through somehow.

On the other hand, WHAT THE AITCH-EEE-DOUBLE-HOCKEY-STICKS DO WE HAVE TO DO TO HAVE ONE GOSH-DARNED NORMAL FAMILY EVENT HAPPEN? We can't have a one-year-old party without a cancer diagnosis, Thanksgiving and Christmas without hospitalizations, a bris without a holy war erupting, and a 2-year-old party without infant meltdown.

Sigh. "Today, I checked my 2-year-old into the hospital for chemo and found out that my 8-week old needs oral surgery to eat and to speak normally. FML."

Seriously. My life sucks. What's next?


The Reluctant Crunchy Mama said...

I don't have anything insightful to say, just lots of virtual hugs for your family. I won't claim to understand how you guys feel about The Boy's situation, but I do have an idea about how you and mommy feel about her being in pain, unhappy baby, etc. We went through that for six weeks. I, like her, kept on going and never ever turned to formula. But my God was it painful! My husband was super supportive, but felt terrible. The look on my face each and every time she latched on... I know you know what I am talking about. The good news is that the procedure is quick and you will see a difference in as soon as 2 or 3 days, if I remember right. Before you know it, breastfeeding will be a piece of cake again. Wishing you guys the very best with everything...

Sarah R said...

He'll be okay! It's a relatively minor surgery, and hopefully things will be much better once it's done. It's quite common and I know of other babies who were tongue tied, had the surgery, and were able to continue breastfeeding normally. He'll have to get used to his "new" tongue and may need to relatch a few times, but he'll be okay.

JC said...

Hang in there! You and Molly are all star parents and CAN do this. I don't know why you have had so many curve balls come your way over the past year or so, but you are surviving and doing a damn good job in my opinion. Chin up!!!

Musical Daddy said...

Would it be crass to say that I'm looking forward to this being OVER so that I can play with his food? 8)

Sarah said...

oh gosh! I have a feeling it is going to be a really really really long time until you can play with tiny guys food!

Your profile picture is adorable, what a great smile! I am assuming it is The boy? how old was he?

Musical Daddy said...

He was about 15 or 16 months there. I love that grin, also!