The way I figure it, we need to do one of three things: 1, put the gate up and let him cry himself to sleep each time he wakes until he gets in the habit of staying asleep in his own room. Not an acceptable option, as it's unfair to everyone in the house, particularly the brother with whom he shares a room. Two, be really rigorous regarding a bedtime procedure, eliminate his sleeping with us entirely, and walk him back to his room and do what is necessary to get him back to sleep, which could mean sitting with him for some time, every hour at night. This is a gentle method, but one for which we haven't the energy. Three, do what we're doing: keep to a reasonable bedtime procedure, and take a break from his own bed. This weekend, when we're all not sick, we'll get him back to (at least) starting the night in his own bed.
It's not necessarily the most important thing for us, The Boy being in his own bed. It does make it more difficult to play snugglebunnies with The Wife. But, if he needs to be with us, we're willing to deal with it.
If it was something important - medicines, hearing aids, chemo, IV lines, that sort of thing - we'd fight about it. It isn't. We're fairly sure that he'll be in his own bed by high school. Whatever.
Maybe it's also time to finally finish reading the "No-Cry Sleep Solution," and implement a system. I don't know.
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