I do feel a bit dishonest, as my wife put it last night, about getting him to sleep and then sneaking out of the room. I understand that, long term, it's not the way to do things. He needs to know what's going on, and he needs to be a part of the decisions. Right now, he feels alone and powerless when it comes to the bedtime things, and that doesn't help. He's also having a hard time dealing with the change in sleeping habits, and The Boy is not one who adapts to change easily.
That's not entirely true; most of the big, big changes have caused no more than the expected trauma. But, this is the first time we've changed his status quo in quite some time. He's treasured his sleeping time, and he's treasured his snuggle time with Daddy in particular, and that's making this whole process more challenging.
Regardless, he'll get used to this. I think it's the best thing for all of us - and that's me being a selfish father, because I really want some measure of control of my life back. I'm willing to be Daddy 23.5 hours per day. I'd love the extra half hour of post-bedtime adult time, where I can be husband, friend, recording artist, reader, or just plain Musical Daddy.
Last night, he made it until 2am, Grandma said, not 4. Apparently, he was wandering around downstairs, looking for us, when she found him. Tonight, we put the gate up and shepherd him into our room. We love when Grandma helps, but we'd prefer it NOT be lost and found.
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